Out of sight, out of mind

Hey how are you ? Where have you been?
It has been quite a long time.
What do you do now? Where do you work ?
Are you married? Do you have kids of your own?
Who else among our common friends have you been in touch with since the last time we saw each other?
Whom did u meet last from our common friends? What’s new buddy ?? and it goes on and on….

These are among some of the questions people ask you when they have not seen u for a long time .
As you read this, you will agree with me that some people haven’t seen you for 1, 2 ,5 years, and probably for 10 years. Some looked for you after you left the scene and found you almost immediately, and are still in touch with you. Some right now remember you and are still thinking about you, but have no plans to look for you in future also because they have gone far away.
And now today when I am writing this blog I feel sad, very sad and this thought makes me sad that they are lost.
I am not  among those who claim to have 200 friends, or among those who claim to have less but quality friends. But I am among those who are rather unlucky in making and keeping friends.
Now when I analyze this lack of fortune of mine  I find a lot of faults .
One thing that I have noticed is a lot of the catty behavior with women. I honestly can't stand getting bored into superficial gossiping or the competitive things women do with each other. Because of these things, I find myself at odds with women. Again It is not that all of the women fall in the same category though.
In spite of that there were some who became close to me in the course of time. But still I guess not close enough to bear the tear of time and distance.
Now I had also a very close friend in the college days. I guess she had grown a mere admiration for me. Most of the times she was fill of appreciative words like how intelligent I was, that no one in our department can compete with me, that only if I could use my potential I would reach here and there :)
In the course of time she moved to some distant city to pursue higher studies. Initially all the things were great, she called me up and I used to call her. But  after some months it reduced to weekly call, after some months it became monthly one. And then I think after some time ego got their place and played it’s role. Now every time I wanted to contact her I could not help the thought that last time also it was me who called up first, why not she this time ??
and after some wait the thought itself started to fade away from my mind. Neither the call came and neither I remembered to call.
After some days I think she moved away, and she also stopped returning my calls.
Some of others became too busy with their life, too much engaged with their new job and new relationships.
Some became too busy to receive calls and most of the time I called up was not the best time to talk to . As they have also peculiar work schedule like me I had to call them after 11 at night or at the weekends. But either I could find that he was travelling or he had gone out for a movie and the time was not just appropriate.
After some time the patience and the conscious effort to maintain the distant friendship gone away.

Everyone has their different agenda. Most of the time, if you're feeling unappreciated by a friend, over and over, it's time to let them go and move on.
Now I think it's normal - moving to the distant place causes that relationship becomes weaker. The solution is to make conscious effort to maintain it. But both sides should do it, but sometimes one of them doesn't do it (for many valid reasons of course). So then, if this relationship is important to you, you have to take action.

it may just be the old adage "Out of sight, out of mind," proving to be true. I personally find it very much to be true…although sad :(